On The Joy and Burden of Gratitude
How do I describe What it feels like to be understood By an author Stranger than my closest friends The joy of waking up With that settled feeling in my stomach Longing only the smell of fresh coffee The color of the sky When it is that deep blush I’ve…
Nothing To Do With Gender
I’ve imagined myself working on this piece several times in the last few years. Each of these times I’ve debated between different kinds of ‘impactful’ opening statements, addressed to family and friends (who judge me for my views on the matter) as my primary audience. [ I will admit, though…
2020, From My Corner In This World
In a few weeks, we’re finally going to be able to say we’ve survived ( or not ) the year since the coronavirus was first discovered in 2019. I am — much to my surprise — looking forward to writings/art/ poetry etc., from people across the world, reflecting over their…
A Superpower I Wish I Had
On days when despite all the medication, sleep would tease me from a distance for several days in a row, I would feel like an extremely unsatisfied customer of the Indian mental health industry. — - The thing about taking anti-depressants, sleep medication and therapy is that it’s all very…
Rumi was awake. He remembered knowing, in that moment, that that day on, he was never going to have to worry about choosing between food and a warm spot under a ragged piece of cloth. — — — — — — — — — — — — — — — — — — — — — — — Rumi had known Arya now for nearly as long as he’d been around in the world. They met ten years back when Rumi, barely awake, was wriggling…
Coping with Anxiety — And Unrelenting Advise on ‘Positive Thinking’
A few words, of anger and frustration, in response to everyday advise on coping with the uncertainty of the times we’re living in. Whatever happens is meant to be (doesn’t help when you don’t believe in man made ideas of God) You worry too much, try and be positive, (is…
In My Closet
This is my ‘coming out’ But not entirely yet. Because the closet feels nice, Safe, on most days. And who do I come out to? I don’t know yet. My desire is fluid, But my identity, not. ‘Find yourself’ say the therapists, But do I want to be found, we don’t know. This closet is quiet and mine Made of desires, thoughts I want to hold on to. Coming out, means letting go, When there’s no one to let go to.
This is my ‘coming out’
But not entirely yet.
Because the closet feels nice,
Safe, on most days.
And who do I come out to?
I don’t know yet.
My desire is fluid,
But my identity, not.
‘Find yourself’ say the therapists,
But do I want to be found, we don’t know.
This closet is quiet and mine
Made of desires, thoughts I want to hold on to.
Coming out, means letting go,
When there’s no one to let go to.
And so I’ll keep the closet,
it’s quiet and mine
Lost and unfound, I’ll remain
Till I figure how to be found
How Much Empathy?
“Adjust for a few days” “Why can’t you adjust for a few days?” Your voice is important, but How do we questions ways and people, That rest on your acceptance of tradition? Empathize, empathize, empathize, we’re told, But when does empathy turn into submission To hierarchy, the patriarchal ways of life, Acceptance of everything I otherwise fight? But I empathize, Till I forget my voice, And you, empathy
The Double Shot Americano Therapy
Therapy is conversation. And conversation is work. And that needs sufficient caffeination. As someone who was recently diagnosed with clinical depression that had followed an earlier diagnosis of a rare/ unusual degenerative orthopedic condition, I have taught myself to look forward to Saturday mornings with my therapist. The nightly sedatives…